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Friday Funny: Fried Bologna

Joe shares on some practical things you can do to help get your finances in order.

Every time we need an answer to a problem, there is a 2 sided answer. There is the God side of things, that only God can do…and there is the man side. The man side is our part of the equation. God does His part and we do ours. Enjoy this funny story about how Joe always loved Friday as a kid. Friday was dad’s Payday…which means Fried Bologna!

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Children That Flourish and Prosper

“Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of mockers” (Psalm 1:1 NIV).

As parents, it is our responsibility to teach our children the Word of God and instill in them the fact that God has a specific purpose for their lives. If we don’t, they will become bored and frustrated with life. They will begin following the advice and plans of the ungodly and hanging around sinners and submitting to their lead. Eventually, they will sit down in the seat of the scornful, relaxing in a life of sin, complaining about everything and everybody.

However, our children do not have to follow that path. We can train up children who will flourish and prosper (Psalm 1:2-3 NIV).

The Take Away:

Let’s teach our children who God says they are and instill in them a great confidence that they have an amazing, God-given purpose for their lives!

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Dwelling Together in Unity

Take three or four children and two adults, each having their own unique set of gifts and personalities, put them all under one roof and have them dwell together in unity.

That is the miracle we call family.

It takes a lot of work to keep peace and unity in a home.

The devil’s main tactic is to divide and conquer. For example, the simple task of getting everyone ready to go to church, or to a ballgame, or out to eat can become a huge, stressful event that the devil will try to use to divide and conquer.

As parents, we must keep a constant vigil to make sure we don’t allow him to do so (1 Peter 5:8).

The Take Away:

That is the miracle we call family.

It takes a lot of work to keep peace and unity in a home.

The devil’s main tactic is to divide and conquer. For example, the simple task of getting everyone ready to go to church, or to a ballgame, or out to eat can become a huge, stressful event that the devil will try to use to divide and conquer.

As parents, we must keep a constant vigil to make sure we don’t allow him to do so (1 Peter 5:8).

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The Big Two in Parenting

In parenting, the two key areas to understand and deal with are attitude and relationship.

Many parents have the mindset: We’re just waiting for our children to turn 18 and move out of the house, then things will be great!

However, we need to realize that things will not automatically get better when our kids turn 18. We won’t retire from parenting. We will still be their parents when they get to be 58. If things aren’t going well now, they won’t automatically get better in the future.

What needs to change is our attitude. We need to see our children as the gift and the reward that God says they are.

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The Take Away:

Whether your children are eight or 58, you will always be their parents. And if you have the right attitude you can develop a great relationship with your children so that when they are grown, they are not only your kids but some of your best friends. (Prov. 17:6 NLT)

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Does He Make Time for Me?

In our marriage seminars, one of the biggest complaints women have about their husbands is, “My husband doesn’t have time to spend with me.”

The man they fell in love with is dealing with the responsibilities of marriage and of being the provider, but he doesn’t have time for the person he’s trying to provide for. He works all day and then comes home and is too tired, or he has home responsibilities, like mowing the lawn, house repairs, taking kids to ball practice, and the list goes on. As a result, he’s very task-oriented, trying to be a good husband and take care of his responsibilities, which is commendable, but he may not realize how important it is to his wife that they spend time together.  

Ladies, you might want to take a look at how he handles this area while you’re dating, because if he has trouble making time for you now, then getting married won’t change that.  

Men, realize this—women are relationship oriented. If they choose to marry you, it’s because they enjoy spending time with you. Don’t let the busyness of life and all of its responsibilities cause your one-on-one relationship with your fiancé or wife to take a backseat. Make spending time together a priority. Enjoy each other’s company. Do fun things together. Enjoy life together.  

Faith Buster:

Most men are apt to be very goal-oriented versus relationship-oriented. They’re trying really hard to be a good husband by providing for the family and taking care of their responsibilities, but they may not realize that their wife wants to simply enjoy spending some time with them. 

Faith Builder:

The Holy Spirit can help us manage our time and prioritize our responsibilities so that we can take time for our spouse.  

Take Action:

Ladies, ask yourself, “Does the man I’m dating take time out of his busy schedule to spend with me? Does he manage his work schedule and responsibilities in a way that makes me feel like I’m a priority in his life and that spending time together is important to him?” This is an area you will want to consider and discuss with a potential husband.


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“True Love” Is Expensive

If you’re in a serious relationship with someone that you’re considering marrying, make sure you understand that true love is expensive.  

When you find that special someone and say, “I love you,” and then follow that up with the words, “I do…for as long as we both shall live,” that means you have just committed to die to yourself and put someone else first in your life. You’ve also handed them all of your possessions—your checkbook, savings account, car keys, house title, and everything else you own.  

Loving someone enough to marry them means you’ve entered into a lifelong covenant with them—everything you have belongs to them, and everything they have belongs to you. It involves laying down your life for someone else.  

The greatest example of love is God’s love toward us. He committed to us 100 percent and gave everything He had in order to establish a covenant with us. When God said, “I love you” to mankind, He didn’t just yell it down from heaven and have warm and fuzzy feelings toward us. God’s love caused Him to go into action. He sent His only begotten Son to earth to sacrifice His life and save us so that He could have relationship with us (John 3:16). That covenant of love cost Him everything, but He saw our value and loved us so much He was willing to pay that price. Love, true love, is expensive. 

Faith Buster:

Saying, “I love you,” can be one of the most expensive phrases you’ll ever speak to someone. 

Faith Builder:

True love may be expensive, but when you see the value in someone and love them, you will not hesitate to pay the price.  

Take Away:

Before you get married, make sure you understand what true love really is and what the marriage covenant is all about. Read scriptures to find out what God says the roles of husbands and wives should look like and how they’re supposed to operate. Get some good Christian, Word-based material on marriage and study what God says about it.

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Is He a Lover?

One of the three most important qualities a husband should possess is that of being a “lover.”

The world has kind of ruined the meaning of that word. They tend to focus on just the romantic type of love, but there’s also a love that the Bible talks about that runs a lot deeper. It’s a God-kind of love that is stable, strong, and unchanging. 

If you want to know what a true lover looks like, look at God—He is the greatest lover of all! A true lover is somebody who is sacrificial and selfless. They walk in a love that prefers others. True love is not haughty or high-minded. It protects. It perseveres. It’s patient and kind. Those are just a few of the traits expressed by true love. If you want to find out what real love looks like, read 1 Corinthians 13:1-8. It lists the traits of what love is and how it acts. 

So, as you’re dating and looking for that special someone, make sure there are selfless actions and real fruit that accompany the words, “I love you.”  

Faith Buster:

The word “lover” has a lot of different worldly connotations that have lowered the standard for what this word should really mean.  

Faith Builder:

The best example of what a true lover looks like is God. As Christians, we are supposed to be developing and walking in the God-kind of love. 

Take Away:

Read 1 Corinthians 13:1-8 to see a list of what God says love looks like. Then read Ephesians 5:25-32 to see how God instructs husbands to love their wives. Ladies, if you want to marry someone who walks in true love, these are the qualities you need to look for in a potential husband. 

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A Good Leader

Since God gave man the responsibility of being the leader in the home, then that’s an important quality to look for in a husband.

As a leader, does he show initiative? Is he able to think ahead, make a plan, and accomplish things? Or does he quit halfway through a project and leave things unfinished? Is he responsible? Does he take care of his things like his car, apartment or house, etc. Does he pay his bills on time? Does he know how to manage money, or does he spend his paycheck as soon as he gets it?  

And a big question to ask is, does he love God, read his Bible, and go to church? Part of a man’s role as the head of the home is to be the spiritual leader and example. That’s really important because everything in the marriage, family, and home is going to emanate from a couple’s spiritual life, and the husband is to be the leader spiritually.  

God created women with a desire to be a helper and a nurturer. When the man takes his place as the leader in the home, it allows the woman to take her place to be the help to him that God’s gifted her to be. So, ladies, make sure to consider the leadership qualities in those you date.

Faith Buster:

Men who don’t like responsibility or who aren’t disciplined in their own lives will most likely not make good leaders. 

Faith Builder:

Some men are more naturally inclined to be leaders than others, but that doesn’t mean leadership skills can’t be acquired and developed. 

Take Away:

A few questions to think about: Do you see him as a strong leader now or maybe more of a “leader in the making”? Do you feel that right now you are more the leader in the relationship than he is? What leadership qualities to you expect to see in potential husband? Make a list. Does the person you’re dating now exhibit any of those qualities? 

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A Good Provider

A key role for every man is to be a provider for his family.

First Timothy 5:8 says those that don’t provide for their own families have denied the faith and are worse than an infidel. That may sound pretty harsh, but God takes this responsibility pretty seriously.  

In Proverbs 6:9-11, the Bible talks about the sluggard who just wants to lie around and sleep all the time. They have no motivation, drive, or strong work ethic. As a result, their needs won’t be met, and they’ll live in poverty.  

I have five daughters, and that’s not the kind of guy I want any of my daughters to marry. I don’t want them living in poverty. I want them to be well taken care of by someone who’s willing to work hard and provide for his family. 

So, ladies, if you’re looking for a potential husband, make sure he has a strong work ethic. If he’s lazy now, he’ll be lazy after he gets married, and he can’t afford to be lazy because he needs to be able to provide for his family. 

Faith Buster:

A strong work ethic is an important quality to look for in a husband. If he’s lazy, doesn’t have any real goals, and doesn’t really care about getting ahead, then that probably won’t change after he gets married. 

Faith Builder:

A godly man with a strong work ethic will work hard and do what he knows to do, but he’ll also put his trust and faith in God to give him wisdom and to help him increase. 

Take Away:

As you date, make sure to consider these questions: Does this person have a strong work ethic? Does he have a job? Is he a hard worker, or is he lazy? Is he industrious? Does he show up to work on time? Will he be a good provider? What are his career plans and goals for the future? 

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Look Before You Leap

A familiar statement expressed by many married couples when they’re trying to work through a rough patch is: “Well, they weren’t like this when we were dating. I guess I just didn’t know them.” 

However, the reality is that nobody goes into marriage knowing everything about the person they’re going to marry. Marriage is a covenant that is meant to last a lifetime, and it will take a lifetime for you to get to know the person you’re considering marrying.  

In Genesis 2:24, the Bible talks about the husband and wife becoming “one flesh.” But that doesn’t happen all at once. And let’s face it, people do change. Neither you nor your future spouse will be the same person five, ten, or twenty years from when you first met—likes and dislikes may change, habits may change (hopefully for the better), even some ways of thinking about life will change. But there are some solid, consistent, unchanging core values, traits, and qualities you should look for in a potential spouse before making a lifelong commitment. Titus 1:6-8 talks about the characteristics of an elder in the church, but this is also a good list to consider when looking for a husband. 

So, be sure to look before you leap into marriage. Take a good look at the person you’re interested in and make sure they share your values and ideals. Because those things will be the foundational building blocks of your relationship that will remain constant throughout the years. 

Faith Buster:

Take time to get to know the core values and qualities of the person you’re dating. Everyone changes over time, but a person’s core values, like integrity, work ethic, and spiritual life, should remain consistent.  

Faith Builder:

God has your best interests at heart, and He knows the plans He has for you, even when it comes to your future spouse!  

Take Away:

You may not be dating anyone right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t begin praying for your future. Pray this: “Father, I know that you have my best interests at heart. Your Word says that every good and perfect gift comes from You, so I know that the person I’m going to marry is going to be good and is going to be a gift from You. I look to You first in all of my relationships and trust You to lead and guide me into all truth. I believe that You order my steps and guide the affairs of my life. Thank you for the amazing plans you have for me that include a wonderful spouse and family!” [Scripture references: Jeremiah 29:11; James 1:17; John 16:13; Proverbs 3:5-6; Ephesians 2:10 (AMPC).] 

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