In our marriage seminars, one of the biggest complaints women have about their husbands is, “My husband doesn’t have time to spend with me.”
The man they fell in love with is dealing with the responsibilities of marriage and of being the provider, but he doesn’t have time for the person he’s trying to provide for. He works all day and then comes home and is too tired, or he has home responsibilities, like mowing the lawn, house repairs, taking kids to ball practice, and the list goes on. As a result, he’s very task-oriented, trying to be a good husband and take care of his responsibilities, which is commendable, but he may not realize how important it is to his wife that they spend time together.
Ladies, you might want to take a look at how he handles this area while you’re dating, because if he has trouble making time for you now, then getting married won’t change that.
Men, realize this—women are relationship oriented. If they choose to marry you, it’s because they enjoy spending time with you. Don’t let the busyness of life and all of its responsibilities cause your one-on-one relationship with your fiancé or wife to take a backseat. Make spending time together a priority. Enjoy each other’s company. Do fun things together. Enjoy life together.
Most men are apt to be very goal-oriented versus relationship-oriented. They’re trying really hard to be a good husband by providing for the family and taking care of their responsibilities, but they may not realize that their wife wants to simply enjoy spending some time with them.
The Holy Spirit can help us manage our time and prioritize our responsibilities so that we can take time for our spouse.
Ladies, ask yourself, “Does the man I’m dating take time out of his busy schedule to spend with me? Does he manage his work schedule and responsibilities in a way that makes me feel like I’m a priority in his life and that spending time together is important to him?” This is an area you will want to consider and discuss with a potential husband.