Having taught for over 20 years on the subject of “family,” it seems the one area that causes people the most heartache and brings up the most difficult questions is the area of finances and trying to provide for a family.
As a couple, the prayer of agreement is a powerful tool.
God highly esteems unity. Jesus said in Matthew 18:19 (ESV), “Again I say to you, if two of you agree on earth about anything they ask, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven.” The husband and wife who will take the time to pray together will not only create unity and harmony in their home, but God will work on their behalf to bring their requests to pass.
Here are a few practical tips to help you and your spouse get started praying together.
- Make a detailed list of requests that include every area of your home, family, work, etc.
- Write major requests on index cards that you can carry with you. Write out at least three scriptures on the back of each card as a reference for your faith.
- Be thankful when you pray. Start each prayer with a “thank you, God” attitude.
- Be specific when praying, and remember, there is no situation too small or too big that you can’t pray in agreement over,
- Keep it short and to the point. Many things don’t require you to pray for hours.
- Keep a prayer journal of your requests. As they are answered, date them and check them off the list.
Don’t be the person who misses out on things in life because you didn’t speak up.
You didn’t communicate that a change needed to happen, or that you believed you were a great candidate for a specific position, and it resulted in a missed opportunity.
(Read more about how to avoid missing another opportunity.)
In marriage, you are going to have to communicate with your spouse all the time. You can’t avoid it if you want to build a strong, healthy relationship.
Talking at and communicating with your spouse are two different things.
DO YOU FALL INTO ONE OF THESE PATTERNS?
Many people fall into the pattern of avoidance. They think that they shouldn’t cause conflict, so they shouldn’t get “real” with their spouse, but that’s not right.
Other people feel that it’s their responsibility to say whatever hits their brain and that’s not right either.
You and your spouse are meant to be a problem solving team. You are a gift from God to each other. You have a responsibility to help each other get better, but you must also remember that they are a child of God and you are to walk in love with them.
Laugh-and-learn a few tips on communicating with your spouse.
WORK ON IT
It’s important that you avoid getting offended when your spouse points something out that you could improve. Yes, it’s important for them to do this in love and not in a hurtful manner, but it’s your responsibility to keep the channels of truthful communication open, so they feel comfortable enough to share. In this way, you are both getting better and stronger – together.
THE TAKE AWAY
Don’t try to be “nice” because that kind of communication only builds walls between you two. Walk in love because that will build the intimacy needed to create an even stronger, healthier marriage.
Gain the skills you need to give the right response to the right person at the right time – including your spouse.
It’s amazing how different children can be. After we had our first child, I thought I had learned all about being a parent. Then our second child came along, and she was nothing like our first.
“And this is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent.” (John 17:3 NKJV).
As a parent, it’s easy to think because you love God, and have gone to church all of your life, and have been diligent to make sure your kids attend church regularly, that they will just automatically love God and want to serve Him too. However, your kids won’t love God automatically just because you do.
A lot of parents quote the scripture to their kids, “Obey your parents” (Ephesians 6:1), but then completely overlook the part that says, “And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath” (Ephesians 6:4 KJV).
As parents, we have the amazing task of teaching and training our kids so that when they leave home, they’ll have a solid foundation and the tools they’ll need to be successful in life. That can seem like a pretty overwhelming job!
As our kids approach the time when they step out on their own, we may think,Where has the last 19-20 years gone? Did I invest enough time in them? Do they have everything they need? Will they make it on their own without going stupid? Continue reading…
There’s a very good reason why parents should never call their child, “stupid.”
It’s because your words are powerful. If you of all people, who know your child best, call them stupid, your child will start to think, “I must be stupid because my dad said I am.”
A person will begin to believe what they hear the most. If at home, all they hear is how they are doing something incorrect or that they never learn, they will begin to see themselves that way.
Most of us get married without a clue of what marriage is.
It’s something you build; not something you find.