Friday Funny: That Escalated Quickly

Listen as Joe shares about early married life.

Couples looking to get married should always go to pre-marital counseling.
It’s best to find out as much as you can and be on the same page, before you marry.
There are always people who wait until AFTER they’re married, to discuss important topics.
Joe shares this hilarious story about how he was a little behind the curve in talking about some important issues!

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How to Win an Argument With Your Spouse

Would you love the key to knowing how to win an argument with your spouse?

Okay, that’s kind of a trick question because you never really win an argument. But there is a way to resolve conflict or solve problems together.

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The Take Away

Before getting into an argument with your spouse, take a moment and determine if you are approaching the conversation the right way. Remember, it’s not about winning, it’s about solving a problem.

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Four Tips to Build a Stronger Marriage

Remember, you don’t FIND a great marriage. You BUILD one.

Use these four tips to build a strong marriage and enjoy the lifelong journey together!

The Take Away

Put purposeful effort into building something great with your spouse today! 

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Dating Your Spouse

Are you dating your spouse? If not, you should be.

Think back to when you were wooing your spouse. You asked them about themselves and you listened to the answer. You gave them your time and your focus. You were interested in helping them and showing them that you care.

Those habits are not only good, they are necessary to build a strong marriage. You don’t ever need to stop dating your spouse. Listen as Joe shares why.

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The Take Away

Make it a priority to date your spouse, even if it’s only driving around the block or sitting on your porch or taking a walk about the neighborhood. It will build intimacy and help you communicate better with each other. Spending time together just talking — not about bills or problems, but just learning about each other is beneficial for your relationship.

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Friday Funny: Where’s Your Shoes

Sunday morning is where the devil is.

Listen as Joe shares the importance of staying in church. It seems like “if it CAN go wrong, it WILL go wrong….on a Sunday morning! The devil tries everything he can do to give us a reason to pull back from church, as well as our relationship with God, If we refuse to be held back, and press in, God will always be there to meet us!

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The Happy Challenge

Don’t stop the special considerations and kind gestures now that Valentine’s Day is over.

Take the Happy Challenge today and find a way to show your spouse that you are thinking about them.

Ask yourself, “What one thing can I do to make my spouse happy today?” It doesn’t have to be a big thing or something that you have to buy.  

Ask yourself, “Is there something that I can do to show them I care, to make their load easier, or to make them smile today?” 

[This also works for parents, friends, and family.]

One very powerful thing you can do for your spouse is to pray for them.

The Take Away

Remember, you are not looking for a reward. It is something you do just because you love them.  Just do something for no other reason than the fact that they are special to you.

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Together, You Make Each Other Stronger

I have five daughters and a son, and if I’ve learned anything through the years, it’s that women are not the same as men. God made men and women different for a reason.

They don’t see the same. They don’t hear the same. They don’t think the same. They don’t feel the same. And they don’t problem-solve the same. As a result, many times when two people get married, it doesn’t take long before they start coming in for marriage counseling. They’re frustrated and mad at each other for the very reasons that God made them.

If they come to me for counseling, I tell them, “You don’t understand what’s going on. You’re trying to make your spouse to be like you. They’re not supposed to be like you. You married somebody who’s different. They are God’s gift to you to make you better!”

When you get married, those unique differences are intended by God to be combined together. You’re supposed to use your strengths to cover each other’s weaknesses. Together, you make each other stronger.

“The Scriptures say, “That is why a man will leave his father and mother and join his wife, and the two people will become one (Ephesians 5:31 ESV).

The Take Away

Don’t focus on your spouse’s weaknesses. Rather, respect and honor their strengths! What are your spouse’s strengths? How can those strengths be a benefit to you and your family? 

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Think Before You Speak

Did you know that life and death are in the power of the tongue?

That’s what God’s Word tells us in Proverbs 18:21. 

Your words have power. Are you using them wisely? 

Here’s a great rule of thumb that will help you in your marriage, your parenting, and your career — the rule is to think before you speak.

 

WHAT GOD’S WORD SAYS 

     1. Proverbs 15:2 (NKJ) The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but  the mouth of the fool pours forth foolishness.

     2. Proverbs 15:28 (NKJ) The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil. 

     3. Proverbs 18:13 (NKJ) He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him. 

     4. Proverbs 12:18 (NKJ) There is one who speaks like the piercings of a sword, but the tongue of the wise promotes health. 

     5. James 3:6 (NKJ) And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity. The tongue is so set among our members that it defiles the whole body, and sets on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire by hell.

     6. James 3:8 (NKJ) But no man can tame the tongue. It is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. 

     7. James 3:10 (NKJ) Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so.

     8. Romans 2:1 (NKJ) Therefore you are inexcusable, O man, whoever you are who judge, for in whatever you judge another you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things.

     9. Ephesians 4:29 (NKJ) Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. 

     10. 1 Peter 3:10 (NKJ) He who would love life and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips from speaking deceit. 

The Take Away

Today, commit to thinking before speaking. You have two ears and one mouth. Listen more than you talk and use your words wisely.

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Time to Take a New Picture

In marriage, we must never get to a point where we think we know our spouse so well that we can just sit back, coast through life, and expect that they will remain the same. People change—not just outwardly, but inwardly.

For example, my wife, Denise, is not the same woman I married on November 11, 1971. Oh, she has the same name and the same social security number, but she’s not the same person. She has a different standard of living, a different outlook on life, different attitudes and expectations. She’s grown, and she’s changed.

We need to take a new picture of our spouse on regular basis. If you only see your spouse the way they were five years ago, or if you have a picture stuck in your head of the grumpy way they acted a few days ago and never take a new picture, you’ll come to a dead end in your relationship and stagnation will set in.  Your spouse will be changing right before your eyes, but all you will see is the picture you took five years ago.

Allow for growth and change in your spouse. Stay current with the changes that may be happening inside of them. Take a new picture!

The Take Away

How do you take a new picture? By taking time to just sit down and talk. Find out if there are new things your spouse is interested in. Do they have personal goals and dreams that maybe you don’t know about? Communication is a big part of every marriage relationship. It’s the “camera” that will help you take a new picture.

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Communication, Marriage, and Football

Men and women are different on purpose.

We can’t let our differences create a wedge in our relationship. It should be the opposite. Our differences, coming together as a team, are what makes us stronger together.

The Take Away

Remember that it’s not true communication if you are just talking “at” each other and not “to” each other. Frustration comes when you forget that you see things differently.

 Learn why your spouse sees, hears, and thinks differently than you do and how you can improve your relationship by learning how to speak “love” in their language.

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