The Word of God has a lot to say about what to look for in a wife.

First Timothy chapter three gives some specific characteristics of a leader’s wife and says, “[The] women likewise must be worthy of respect and serious, not gossipers, but temperate and self-controlled, [thoroughly] trustworthy in all things” (1 Timothy 3:11 AMPC).  

This is a good checklist for any man to have who’s considering getting married. Also, make sure that the person you marry is someone who is able to control their tongue. It’ll make a big difference in your marriage. The Bible talks about how a perfect man [or woman] is a peaceful man [or woman] (Psalm 37:37 KJV, brackets inserted by author). And then it goes on to say that a perfect man or woman is somebody who is able to control their tongue. They don’t offend anyone with their speech or say the wrong things. If they’re able to control their tongue, then they’re able to control their whole body because the tongue is the hardest thing to control (ref. James 3:2 AMPC).  

So, when you’re considering what type of woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want to consider someone who is able to control their tongue and doesn’t just say everything that hits their brain. Having self-control and not being a gossip are great qualities to look for in a spouse.  

The Take Away:

Take notice of the words spoken by the person you’re dating. Are they words that encourage and bring life and healing, or are they words of complaining, strife, and gossip? Death and life are in the power of the tongue, so you might want to take notice of what that person’s words are producing.  

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