When you love someone, you’ll be sensitive to their problems and try to be an encouragement to them and help them through their difficulties. That’s how love works.
However, sometimes insensitivity can be a problem simply because men and women think differently. For example, many times men seem to blow off what a woman is worrying about simply because men don’t think the same way women do. It’s not necessarily that they don’t care, but a lot of times it’s because they just don’t worry about the same things. So, they wonder, Why is she worrying about that? It’s really not a big deal.
But if you want to grow in your relationship, you have to realize this: My job is to help meet the needs of this individual. This problem is a big deal to this person, so I just need to show some compassion and understanding. I need to figure out how I can encourage them, ease their stress, and help them through this difficulty.
Those kinds of actions are what will help fine-tune and grow a marriage relationship.
The Take Away:
Does the man you’re dating ignore or lightly esteem the difficulties you go through? Does he take time to really listen to the things that you’re dealing with and give you encouragement, or does he just expect you to deal with them on your own because he doesn’t want to be bothered with your problems? Discuss how you can become more sensitive and engaged in helping each other with individual problems that arise.