Marriage is the process of two different people, from two different families, with two different sets of gifts, talents, abilities, IQs, likes, dislikes, and opinions becoming one. You don’t become one on your honeymoon.

It’s a lifetime process.


People get married and think, “I married someone who is just like me.” But you didn’t. I saw a bumper sticker in Texas once that summed up marriage in a nutshell. It read: If two people are just alike, one of them is not needed. You and your spouse are different. My wife and I said ugly stuff to each other for a long time.


“Thank God Denise and I were invited to a Bible study…”


Many marriages go through that. You wake up one day and think, “What have I done? I’ve married a crazy person?” “They are never going to change. I’ll be stuck with them the rest of my life. I’ll never be happy!” Thank God Denise and I were invited to a Bible study, and we began to learn what God said about marriage. We found out what our problem was. It was ignorance!

God said, “My people are destroyed for a lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). When I say ignorant, I don’t mean that we didn’t know anything, or that we weren’t smart. I mean that we didn’t know anything about each other or about how to be married.

God designed marriage to be a lifelong process. You may have been married for 5 days or 50 years, but you will still need to be growing together and learning about each other. Set aside time to study what God’s Word says about marriage and spend time getting to know your spouse.




Know that “growing together” is a lifetime process. Make time to learn about marriage and get to know your spouse all over again -and again!


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