When looking for a spouse, a few questions that you might want to have high on the list are: Does she have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ?
Does she go to church? Does she read the Bible on her own and not just when she’s at church? Does she value the power of prayer?
Proverbs talks about charm being deceptive and beauty not lasting, but “a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised” (Proverbs 31:30 NIV). In other words, is the woman you’re considering marrying as attractive on the inside as she may be on the outside? Are there fruit of the spirit evident in her life—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control? (ref. Galatians 5:22-23)
First Peter chapter three talks about how “beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. But it should be that of a woman’s inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight” (1 Peter 3:3-4 NLT). There’s no doubt that the outward appearance is important, and you need to be attracted to the person you marry, but God says what is on the inside is incredibly valuable to Him and is to be praised and honored.
Men, a woman who has a solid relationship with God and possesses a spiritual strength that manifests in a gentle and quiet spirit is the type of woman who will be a big asset to you and help you become all God wants you to be.
The Take Away:
Take time to really get to know the person you’re going to marry. Make sure they’re more than just a pretty face and that they have a true relationship with God and an inner beauty that reflects the fruit of the spirit.