The Bible says, “The man who finds a wife finds a treasure, and he receives favor from the LORD.” (Proverbs 18:22 NLT).
In Ephesians 5:28-29 (NIV) the Bible talks about husbands loving their wives as their own bodies. When you love your body, you feed it, nurture it, and take care of it. You don’t do things to hurt yourself or tear yourself down. Well, that’s how a husband needs to love his wife. He needs to treasure and cherish her.
That means a husband is not going to shout at his wife, abuse her, talk harshly or unkindly to her, or make unreasonable demands. He won’t use force—physical or psychological—or use manipulation in order to get his own way.
If a guy you’re dating shows any of those characteristics, it’s not a good sign. If he’s quick to yield to anger, then he has no self-control. Proverbs 14:17 (ESV) says, “A man of quick temper acts foolishly.” You don’t want to marry someone who is going to do something rash and act foolishly in a moment of anger. Think about it; if he’s yelling now during your dating relationship when there’s not much pressure, then what will happen if you get married and start having children, and there’s a whole lot of pressure to deal with? If he can’t control himself now, he will not be able to later.
So ladies, when you’re looking for a husband, consider how the person you’re dating is treating you now. Actions can speak volumes, and the person you share your life with should act like you’re the most important person in his life next to the Lord. He should treat you like you’re valuable and communicate his appreciation.
The Take Away:
Ladies, when you’re dating, here are a few qualities to look for in a potential spouse: faith, patience, kindness, joy, honorable to others, not self-seeking, not easily angered, trustworthy, protector.