Remember, men and women are different, and that means how we communicate will have some differences.

Screen Shot 2015-09-24 at 9.28.12 AMIt’s important to understand those differences and take them into account when you are talking to your spouse. The point of communication is for an exchange to take place, not for you and your spouse just to talk at each other.

The Facts:
For women, all speech has a purpose to build and tend to relationships.
For men, to talk is to relate facts.

Consider This:
Men talk mainly inside their heads. When a man is staring out a window or looking off into the distance, most of the time, he is having a conversation with himself. When a woman sees this, she o ten thinks he is bored or unoccupied, and she starts talking to him. This can frustrate a man because he has been interrupted, and he can’t focus on more than one thing at a time.

A woman will verbalize her list of things she is thinking out loud, mentioning all the possibilities and options. A man listens to a woman talking and thinks she is giving him a list of problems he needs to fix, so he usually becomes anxious or tries to tell her what to do. A man needs to unde stand that when a woman talks she is not expecting him to respond with solutions. She simply needs him to listen and pay attention. Women need to understand that when a man doesn’t talk, that isn’t a signal that something is wrong.

In order to change what is coming out of our mouths, we need to change what is going into our hearts and minds.

What we say is a barometer of what is in our hearts.
A good person produces good things from the treasury of a good heart, and an evil person produces evil things from the treasury of an evil heart. What you say flows from what is in your heart. Luke 6:45 NLT


Start putting something good in your heart, so you will have it when you need it. Begin by telling yourself who God says you are.

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